Relationship With An Injured Person

People who tend to be a savior often think that this is very positive. However, they rob people of the ability to deal with their problems on their own.

Are you starting a relationship with someone who has been hurt or someone who is still heartbroken? There are people who tend to be saviors or healers, but relationships with an  injured person  can be very difficult.

Some feel drawn to people who need someone to find themselves again. However, they are often unaware that these people need alone time first to overcome pain.

The helper syndrome in a relationship

Helper syndrome makes you receptive to someone who is injured and in need of care.

Perhaps this is a person who has been destroyed or humiliated by a harmful or violent relationship. It is someone who has not been loved as he deserves and to whom the Savior is welcome.

The rescuer can try to heal the wounds and wait until the first small progress can be seen again.

Maybe you recognize yourself in this description. If you have a savior complex, you may also be familiar with the following points:

• Your parents could not meet your basic needs as a child and did not give you the love and care you needed. To make up for that, you give other people what you never had.
• Your parents were very authoritative and aggressive, and as a result you think other more vulnerable and damaged people are perfect partners for you. So you  are looking for the extreme opposite.
• It has always been your most important endeavor to please other people. Now you can take care of someone and try to do whatever they could possibly need.

• Because of your fear of being alone or being rejected,  you believe that trying to please and help people will make them want to be with you. You believe that other people will return you the favor you do them in kind.

As you can see, the need to apprehend an injured person without giving them the time to find themselves and heal themselves is a result of your own experiences.

However, when you begin a relationship with an injured person, you don’t realize  that you’re hurting yourself.

The rebirth of an injured person

You may believe that your care will heal the injured person and go on living as before  . But that’s not the case.

What happens next? The healed person will flee and leave you after their pain is healed by you. As a savior, you remain destroyed  and ask yourself what is left to you now. Now you have to face your deepest fears: being alone and feeling abandoned.

Despite this experience, you will again shake hands with an injured person to build a new relationship.

Everyone should save themselves first

People who tend to be a savior often think that this is very positive. However, they rob people of the ability to deal with their problems on their own.

We can’t save everyone. Being saved by others prevents people from becoming stronger themselves, helping themselves, making the right decisions, and overcoming their own fears.

Starting a relationship with an injured person is a great risk. Namely, the risk that the person will leave you as soon as they get better. There is a risk that the relationship with this person will not work out for you and you will be hurt yourself.

Therefore, you shouldn’t start a relationship with an injured person,  but instead give them time to heal themselves and overcome their problems. Otherwise, the relationship is doomed from the start.